Jean Vanier: Another Voice for Professional Social Work

I’m reading an article in the Journal of Religion & Spirituality in Social Work. It’s entitled, Jean Vanier: An Alternative Voice for the Social Work Profession.  Vanier is the founder of the L’Arche communities around the world that provide home and community for adults with developmental challenges.  The main thrust of the article is about the value of religio-poetic language in the field of social work — a field that for the last half century has been much more focused on building its reputation as a profession. At one point, the author, Anne Marie Walsh, PhD, writes the following:

Social work is in the often privileged position of realizing some of what Vanier suggests.  The profession works closely with very disadvantaged people, the weak within a competitive capitalist society; even the profession itself tends to be seen as somewhat weak, unable to generate its own funds, women’s work, a pseudoprofession which is not doing the “real” work of building, earning, and producing.  The exposure to the capacities (and not only the challenges) of those with whom we work offers social workers a view of he complex strengths and the dignity of many whom the “real world” might reject.  And of course, our exposure to the lives of others touches our own weaknesses.

Despite the messages we hear so very often — especially in much of what passes for political “discourse” these days — the truth of Jean Vanier’s perspective is so very evident to me in his commitment not just to community, but to community of care. As Vanier says:

That is why we need community, because we can do nothing all alone.  We need to belong. We only know ourselves and each other when we live with our weaknesses.

 

Aloneness, Solitude, and Community

I often struggle with loneliness.  Despite the fact that I have lived alone for the past ten years, the solitariness of being single is at times overwhelming.  In his meditation for January 22 in Bread for the Journey: A Daybook of Wisdom and Faith, the late Henry Nouwen has this to offer:

Community Supported by Solitude

Solitude greeting solitude, that’s what community is all about. Community is not the place where we are no longer alone but the place where we respect, protect and reverently greet one another’s aloneness.  When we allow our aloneness to lead us into solitude, our solitude will enable us to rejoice in the solitude of others. Our solitude roots us in our own hearts.  Instead of making us yearn for company that will offer us immediate satisfaction, solitude makes us claim our center and empowers us to call others to claim theirs. Our various solitudes are like strong, straight pillars that hold up the roof of our communal house. Thus, solitude always strengthens community.

I venture that Nouwen would also say the layer between solitude and community — relationship with another — is likewise nurtured by the fruits of allowing our aloneness to lead us into solitude.  When we know and are at home at that center where we can breathe deeply and profoundly and simply be who we are — it is then that we are best able to move beyond our center and relate with the “other.”

And in this relating, Love lives most fully.

 

 

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Love and Humor in the Face of Rejection

The young man described in today’s Caroly Hax column (in the Washington Post) does sound like quite an “impressive human being.”

As his sister describes him, he clearly knows his own truth so deeply that he is able to see beyond his mother’s rejection and not be controlled by her attempts to control. Perhaps he knows well the source of her non-maternal behavior — fear? ignorance? having been rejected or hurt herself? Whatever the reason, wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could all find ways lovingly to stand our ground, speak truth to untruth — all with open arms and gentle humor!

How About a Prayer for All Marriages (And All Committed Relationships Rooted in Love)?


(My comment to an article on the Huffington Post. Read the Article at HuffingtonPost)

“While Nienstedt has every right to write a prayer of exclusion and insert it into the Mass…” Actually, Archbishop Nienstedt does NOT have this right. Catholic Liturgy is public prayer, it is communal prayer. The Eucharisti­c Liturgy, commonly referred to as the Mass, is the epitome of Catholic Liturgical life and it is precisely NOT subject to the whims of individual­s, including the bishop of a particular diocese (if it were, there would not continue to be such concerns about the recently re-transla­ted Roman Missal).

Reading the letter that accompanie­d the introducti­on of this “prayer” on the archdioces­an website, it’s hard to tell whether Nienstedt was directing that this be included in Mass (as part of the “Prayer of the Faithful”)­, or whether it was merely a very strong suggestion­. In either case, the insertion of such a text which clearly does not reflect the “prayer of the Faithful” is a scandalous abuse of his authority as the bishop of that diocese. My prayer is that pastors and priests simply ignore this call.

“Thy Kingdom Come” …but maybe not just yet??

“We can’t keep saying ‘Thy kingdom come’ when we are actually trusting in our own nations, political parties, militaries, banks, and institutions to save us.”

This phrase jumped out at me this morning from Richard Rohr’s daily meditation. It seems particularly relevant as the presidential electoral battle continues to heat up here in the US, as the marketing for Christmas is in high gear, and as we are challenged once again to ask ourselves what we who call ourselves Christian really and truly believe as December 25 approaches.

We must remember that if our actions indicate we worship anything less than God — money, country, success, fame, other people, or especially ourselves — then this is idolatry.

The [Real] Meaning of Marriage

This touching video describes the love and shared lives of two men, clearly married “later in life.” It’s worth a few minutes of your time.

  • “Why would anyone not want to foster love? It’s as simple as that.” 
  • As my brother went down the path of advanced AIDS…. I saw his trust in Dave… and the care Dave gave him….My husband said, I don’t think I could do for you what Dave is doing for Carl… I’ve never seen greater love than that.” — Carl’s sister.
  • “I thought it was awesome, I thought it was great! — Carl’s son on his father’s relationship and marriage to Dave,
  • “The way Davey would take care of my father….that was remarkable to me.”
  • “I was given an opportunity to care. ”  —  On caring for his husband Dave as he was dying with AIDS.
  • “I saw in their relationship the fruits of the Spirit.” — The couple’s pastor in Arkansas.

Australian Gay Marriage Video

Guess I am a bit of a romantic, but I admit it … I did tear up when I saw this! How can anyone watch this video, produced by the Australian advocacy group, “GetUp! Action for Australia,” and not be moved?

To all  Catholic bishops around the world (including the Pope); all the Republican presidential candidates who have signed pledges in support of DOMA; Maggie Gallagher, Brian Brown, and other intellectually challenged supporters of NOM … how can you possibly watch this and fail to understand that support for civil (and yes, sacramental … but that’s another story) marriage will in no way harm either the marriages of heterosexuals or children?

This is about:

  1. accepting the fact that being gay is not a choice;
  2. recognizing that being gay is a natural part of the diversity with which humanity is so blessed; and
  3. deciding how to live faithfully and responsibly in light of the God-given realities of #1 # 2.