I doubt there is a gay man in America who doesn’t know someone affected by the challenges of addiction (especially crystal meth) and HIV infection. This HuffPost GayVoices commentary by John-Manuel Andriote is a poignant reminder of how far we have to go in creating communities where stigma and shame are rendered impotent. How far are we from a society where we truly care for one another, especially the “least among us”? Having lived in gay-friendly DC for two decades, this line struck a chord (emphasis added):
Even in 2012 it is damned hard to be a gay man in America. For all the progress we’ve made toward almost being treated as equal, there continue to be daily challenges — particularly for those of us who haven’t constructed our lives in a way to exclude others who aren’t gay.
This touching video describes the love and shared lives of two men, clearly married “later in life.” It’s worth a few minutes of your time.
- “Why would anyone not want to foster love? It’s as simple as that.”
- “As my brother went down the path of advanced AIDS…. I saw his trust in Dave… and the care Dave gave him….My husband said, I don’t think I could do for you what Dave is doing for Carl… I’ve never seen greater love than that.” — Carl’s sister.
- “I thought it was awesome, I thought it was great! — Carl’s son on his father’s relationship and marriage to Dave,
- “The way Davey would take care of my father….that was remarkable to me.”
- “I was given an opportunity to care. ” — On caring for his husband Dave as he was dying with AIDS.
- “I saw in their relationship the fruits of the Spirit.” — The couple’s pastor in Arkansas.