For the past three days I’ve been attending a work-related conference on health communication, marketing and media. As you might expect, almost every session refers to the “new media” tools used to communicate in today’s digital world. “Facebook and Twitter” is spoken as a single word, and it’s invariably followed by other social media tools used both to communicate and measure that communication. Topics such as “engagement,” “reach,” “influencing,” and being “connected” with one’s target audience are pervasive.
I get that this is the world in which we live. I also understand that these tools are just that — tools in a larger toolbox that has been around since the first humans realized that they were not alone, that there were others like them, and that they wanted to reach out to others, interact with others, and be connected. The need and desire for human connectedness is even more self-evident than the truths penned by Thomas Jefferson; we are social beings, and we want to know one another, to interact with one another, to touch one another.
Yet, in the midst of all the talk of connectedness, I’ve found myself these past days seeking and relishing moments of quiet and solitude. And by that I don’t mean time simply alone. As a single man I have lots of that! I am by myself more than I am with others, and so the need I’ve been experiencing went beyond that. I’ve been experiencing a need to be “disconnected” from all the texts and tweets and emails and surfing and simple “noise” that at times can be so very overwhelming. Perhaps that’s why I find myself now — in the middle of the night — sitting in the silence of a darkened hotel room, relishing the silence and the opportunity to be alone in a deeper, more profound way.
Silence and solitude are tools, too. They are not the tools of social engagement, but are the tools of the soul. Without our occasional (dare I say regular?!) forays into silence and solitude, our souls in shyness can become bewildered. When we are so utterly “connected” and so constantly engaged with an outward gaze, we can lose the necessary perspective that an inward gaze provides. We can lose touch with the deepest part of who we are, or even forget that there is a part of who we are that doesn’t need our gadgets and technologies. What I’m speaking of is not so much the need to be disconnected from that which is outside of us, but rather the need to be equally connected with that which is within us. Deeper connection with myself, and with the Other Whom I find in the quiet depths of my soul forms and informs and blesses my connections with others.
Even more than FB and Twitter, Silence and Solitude are tools everyone can use (and there’s no username of password required!).